You are not your business!

Let me remind you of something so important  

You are not your business.

Yes, it can be personal - it all can feel very attached to us and interwoven with everything we do.

AND..... 

It's also one of those very normal ongoing challenges - to separate ourselves (and our self worth) from our business performance.

Business is a series of decisions, executions & results that are created by those decisions. 

It means nothing about our worth as humans in the world or our capacity or potential.

When calls are coming in, new clients signing up and our schedule is full, we feel confident and calm.

When we’ve had crickets for days or experienced a particularly tricky conversation it can have us feeling discouraged and dejected.

It’s a slippery slope for our confidence and the future of our business.

We really have to manage that part in our minds.

This is where I can step in to support you as a 1:1 coach.

For these times.

⇨ When you forget why you started.

⇨ When you're questioning if you can actually succeed in business.

⇨ When the vision of that freedom and flexibility you desire seems so far away.

⇨ When you feel lonely and unsupported.

⇨ When all you can see is how it’s not working and you wish it would happen more quickly...

Here's what we do:

• We look back to see how far you’ve come. 

• We find all the ways it is working.

• We celebrate the progress.

• We normalise these struggles (they happen to us all btw)

• We help you find patience and remind you of your timeline.

• We bounce ideas off each other - you get to have the experience of all the mistakes I've made in my businesses

• When it’s just you in your own brain (and talking to your partner or friends doesn’t help any more - you’re sure they’re sick of hearing it, because you are too), we put it all on the table.

• We take a look at what's there (without judgement) and assess the validity of some of the stories our brains like to hold onto.

• We help you make decisions about how you want your business to operate, what you’re available for, what you’re not available for.

• We keep the momentum going for you to create that life & business you envisaged when you first started. One that you love 💚, that means something to you, that connects you to your people.

I’ve seen it happen sometimes. When it's been too much to mentally deal with and you've given it away. This makes me sad because you have good work to do in the world - so many people to help with your skills and experience. So much suffering that can be avoided. So much potential to live a more meaningful & fulfilled life.

Before you give it in and go to find yourself a ‘proper’ job, come talk to me. I’m here for you. Don’t give up before we talk. Some solid practical pointers and emotional support can make all the difference. You'll be amazed how much better you feel after one conversation.

PS: I still have occasions when I consider going to get a ‘proper’ job. This used to mean a job where I went to work for someone else...in an office scenario. 9-5. Whattt?! So not me.

BUSINESS REFLECTION PROMPTS:

Are you connecting your self worth to the success of the business?

How can you start to see them as separate?

Learn more about working together https://www.definesuccesscoaching.com/forbusiness

Sarah Howell Business Coach